Have you heard of Abraham Maslow?
Yes, the famous psychologist who presented the theory of hierarchy of needs (Please google if you aren’t familiar).
I’ve always loved the bottom line of his theory. Loved teaching it. Loved reflecting on it and even more so..I love applying it on my life ..
That said, it emphasises the *need* to realise one’s potential to be *truly* happy.
To further simplify the idea, it states, that we need to make an effort in finding out what our true potential is and then do our best to become that.
We all have latent abilities, sort of inbuilt in nature. ‘God-gifted’ is a better word for it.
And then there are abilities ..we work on to achieve what we aspire to achieve. right?
But the question is: how do we know what we are meant to do/can do/should do?
I say, it’s a quest. It’s something one really has to ponder on.
I think it has a lot to do with how doing something particular makes you feel at the end of the day.
Is it personally fulfilling?
Makes you want to do more of it?
Makes you want to advance in it?
Are you ready to sacrifice in terms of time, effort & energy relatively speaking? (the opportunity cost you know).
If the answer is yes, then keep doing it for a while. You think it’s a worthy pursuit. Put it to the test of time. After a good while, if it has you feeling bored then you’d know, it was just a hobby or something related but *not* your passion.
Passion doesn’t tire you out, even if the reward is less than the amount of effort you are willing to put into it; of course there will be days you’ll get tired and sick of yourself and even things you feel passionate about.. I mean life happens! 🙂
But if you are really passionate about something, you’ll come back & persevere because it makes you want to wait and do more and be an expert at it. It is beyond the need of securing public’s approval & applause and directly and essentially related to your personal sense of inspiration, motivation and it’s deeply fulfilling. As Maslow puts it. It’s self-actualisation.
It’s not surprising that some people do what they have to ..for a variety of reasons but passion/love not being one of those.
According to Maslow, it’s a *need* to self-actualise; to know who you must be/become in order to reach your optimal self or the best you can be.
It can be that you’d want to be the best wife/husband, mother/daughter/son, entrepreneur/doc/teacher or any capacity that you are in.. etcetera.
And I think it’s all about how much you *want* to grow as a person in general in that very capacity.
How strongly you *believe* that you can be what you want to be and then making a plan of action to do what you gotta do!
Suffice to say, wants have alternatives, if not A then B. But needs are quite fundamental in nature. You know *the have to have*-
We all need to move forward from safety needs (reference: Maslow hierarchy please) to an upper bracket of self-identification and actualisation.
Look deep within and you’ll know what moves you.
And just maybe you are already doing it but don’t know if it’s what’s driving you one step closer to be your best self one day at a time. But it really is.
Anyways, just felt like sharing this little chunk of my thought process with you guys..
Keep looking. Keep going. 👍🏻